The Woman He Couldn't Introduce to His Family

Mentorship Success Story: 

Hi Paulina,

I know there are probably women out there who are where I used to be, and if that's you, I really hope this gives you some hope. I want them to know that happiness, laughter and true love with your person is a real thing they can have.

When I started coaching with you, I was working as a dancer at a club. I don't say that with shame anymore. At the time, it was simply how I paid my bills. It gave me financial freedom and I met some genuinely kind people through that job.

But looking back, I can also see what it was reinforcing an identity of having to settle. Settle for men that didn’t fully see me and trying to fit myself into a job that made me feel small.

Every night I was being rewarded because of my body. Men wanted my attention, but never really me. I honestly thought that was just how life worked. You could be desired, but that didn't mean anyone would actually choose you.

This man that used to visit the club got my attention. He’s the Sp in question.

He was different from the other men. He always treated me with so much respect. He looked me in the eyes when he talked to me. He remembered things I had told him. I never felt like he was talking down to me or acting entitled because of where we had met. There was something about him that made me feel happy when I saw him.

I started getting excited every time he'd come in. Then one night I noticed he was wearing a wedding ring. That completely crushed me. I remember thinking of course he’s taken.

Even if he liked me, which he started to make more evident, men like him don't leave women like his wife for women like me. We did see each other outside of the club. He bought me a really nice coat for my birthday. I kissed him and he kissed me back, but then he pulled back and said he couldn’t.

That became my obsession. I found the third party on social media and compared myself to her constantly.

She looked elegant. Put together. Like someone you'd proudly introduce to your family. I felt so embarrassed and stupid for even thinking this was going somewhere.

I felt like I was everything you'd keep hidden. Even before that job I never had the feeling of being claimed or chosen. I found your page because I was trying to manifest him. You showed me why I believed I could only ever be someone's secret.

I had been carrying that belief long before I ever met him.

The emotional revision was probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I had to feel things I'd spent years avoiding.

I realized how much shame I was carrying without even knowing it and how it subconsciously affected my choices and attitudes. Somewhere along the way I'd decided there was something fundamentally wrong with me, and that belief had quietly shaped every relationship I'd ever had, even with friends and family.

You never made me feel like my job was wrong or that I had to fix myself before I deserved love.Thank you for that. You really saw me.

As I started experiencing God's unconditional love in a real way, I just naturally started changing. I could no longer fit in my old life, so I started auditioning for dance jobs I never would've believed I could get before. I ended up getting hired as a backup dancer for a major tour. This meant more money and a job that was in alignment with who I am deep down.

Around the same time he stopped texting me. I did text him asking if he was ok but got ghosted. It freaked me out a little bit, but I could trust what we were doing. I thought maybe he didn’t want to lead me on and that’s why he chose to step back. But I kept choosing to have faith.

A few months later, he reached out. He told me he and his wife had been separated for quite some time, and he hadn't wanted to involve me until everything was finalized. What a gentleman.

Then he told me something I'll never forget. He said what attracted him wasn't that I was beautiful or that I danced. He said it was my presence.

He told me I'd always seemed to have a beautiful soul, and that he felt more like himself around me than he had in years. Before this experience I would have never believed him. The first time he took me on a date after this I felt like a golden retriever puppy. I had never been so in the moment. My guard was completely down because I was completely in love in the spiritual sense.

He's never once made me feel ashamed of where we met. He's never treated me like I'm less than. If anything, he makes me feel treasured. I’m meeting his family soon. These are things I would fantasize about and now they are real!

You helped me see that I didn’t have to fix myself to have love. Once I had that state shift, everything else unfolded. Even the way I wake up in the morning is different. I’m happy and grateful for my life as well as having a constant feeling of being held. I’ll never be lonely again.

The best part is that by the time he told me he loved me, it wasn't even the biggest manifestation anymore. It was that nowI finally believed I deserved to hear those words. I am the person that that’s normal and natural for.

Thank you for changing my life.