I Stopped Fighting My Body and Lost The Weight

I had been trying to lose weight for some time. It wasn’t working and I got increasingly frustrated. I was doing what you’re meant to do but seeing no results. Then I’d get triggered and feel defeated. I’d think I'm too old and stuck this way, I’m just big boned, or even if I lose the weight my skin will sag.

In coaching I learned to get out of my head and into my body. We did parts work which helped me with discernment (what are defense mechanisms and what are my real thoughts) and having a coherent inner world. I was all over the place spiritually and didn’t know how to question things. This was causing a lot of confusion and stress.

Once I was more connected to my body (this is where all the uncomfortable emotions that I was avoiding lived. There were a lot), We did state shifting exercises. From different states I could see things differently.

She guided me to explore a version of myself that felt good in my body. She taught me segment intending, basking, and relishing, and helped me tap into the version of me that naturally enjoyed moving, feeling and seeing her body and taking care of herself

Of course, the triggers came up. I would feel defeated, worried I’d fail again, or tense because I thought I had tried everything. I learned  that it was expected.

That was resistance. And she showed me how to work through them, noticing freeze responses. My body would tense to avoid disappointment. We even did some emotional revision, facing my fears, and I felt so much tension leave my body.

After a few weeks, things started to shift. I woke up with a flatter stomach. My energy skyrocketed. My weight started to drop because I was moving more. For example at work I noticed I was moving my foot, tapping my pencil. When I was in freeze all of that energy was spent being stressed out.

My body responded beautifully because I was embodying the person I wanted to be. I felt sexy, fit. We weren’t at war anymore. I do think being in harmony with my body started with listening to the emotions.

In a couple of months I lost 10 kilos. I used to think these were stuck forever. Shifting my identity is a skill I’m grateful to have and I can apply to any area of my life. Now I know the body follows the state, not the other way around. If anyone reading this feels like they hate the way that they look, please know that there is a way. Stop fighting your body and identify with the woman that enjoys being in her skin.